Recognize Manipulation Disguised as Faith
Recently, I’ve noticed a troubling pattern: men using the Bible to shame, discredit, or control women. This behavior has surfaced multiple times over the past few weeks, and I feel it’s time to address it.
This isn’t about connection or understanding – it’s manipulation disguised as faith.
1. The Baited Questions
Questions like “Are you married?” or “Do you have kids?” can seem innocent but are often loaded. For some men, these questions aren’t about getting to know you. Instead, they’re bait to diminish your value or justify their dominance.
2. The Hypocrisy
Here’s what’s wild: every single man who has approached me like this has openly been living out of alignment with the very scriptures they try to weaponize.
Meanwhile, I’ve been celibate for 4 years – a personal commitment to God and my belief in waiting for marriage.
My journey is rooted in faith, obedience, and walking the path God has called me to.
3. Walking the Walk
I pray daily, strive to live in alignment with God’s teachings, and treat others with kindness and compassion. That’s the foundation of my life and work.
But the men who’ve tried to shame or dominate me? Their actions speak louder than their words. Manipulative tactics, control, and disrespect have no place in a God-centered life.
4. What the Bible Actually Says
The Bible calls men to love their wives as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25) – with kindness, care, and selflessness.
A true man of God uplifts, encourages, and supports you. He doesn’t manipulate, shame, or control.
Ladies, trust me: if a man behaves this way now, it won’t improve with time – whether during dating or after marriage.
5. Discernment is Key
Anyone who uses God’s word to harm or diminish you is not acting in alignment with His teachings.
If a man approaches you with manipulation or shaming language, take it as a red flag. His actions and intentions reveal more about his character than his words ever could.
6. You Are Loved and Cherished
For the past 10 years, I’ve helped others heal their hearts, overcome past wounds, and expand their ability to experience God’s love.
I know the difference between walking the path of God and using scripture as a weapon.
Stay strong in your faith and grounded in your worth.
Don’t let anyone manipulate you or make you feel less than. You are loved, cherished, and created with purpose.
You have the wisdom and discernment to navigate relationships that align with God’s love and truth. Don’t settle for less.
Big Hugs,
Jasmine