Cutting Through the Noise: Why I Prefer Straight Talk Over Fluff
I’ve always been a direct person. Maybe it’s because I have ADHD symptoms and value my working memory. Maybe it’s just because I don’t understand – or care for – the games people play.
You know the ones. The buttering up, the unnecessary small talk, the fake concern before getting to the real reason you called or messaged me. “Hey, how are you?” when you don’t actually care. “I was just thinking about you!” when you really just want something.
I don’t do that. The people in my life know – call me, and get to the point. You have about 2 – 5 minutes max before I get annoyed. If you can’t get to it by then, don’t call me. Don’t text me with a long-winded lead-up. Just tell me what you want.
Because honestly? Your extra words and long explanations feel like an attack on my working memory. And if I have to sift through unnecessary details to figure out the point, I’m not interested.
It’s not that I’m cold or don’t care. I actually care deeply. When I ask how you are, I genuinely want to know. Not because I need your whole life story, but because I want you to acknowledge how you’re feeling. If things aren’t great, I want to give you words of encouragement – because I mean it.
But when people ask how I’m doing, I can tell most don’t actually want the truth. If I say “not great,” I see the shift in their energy. They weren’t prepared for an honest answer. So why even ask?
I’ve had people in my life who don’t appreciate my directness. They want the fluff, the niceties, the extra effort to make them feel comfortable. But I’m not about that. If I call, it’s because I have a reason. I respect your time, energy, and effort. I assume you’d appreciate the same.
The people I get along with best operate the same way. We don’t waste time. We talk when we need to. We don’t fill conversations with unnecessary fluff just to stroke egos.
And that’s what I don’t understand – why do we, as humans, play these games? Why waste time, energy, and effort on things that don’t matter? Is any of this actually serving us? Or is it just social conditioning, forcing us into a cycle of insincere interactions?
Maybe it’s just me. Maybe it’s the ADHD. Or maybe I’m just a real person who likes to keep it real. Either way, I’m not changing this aspect of me. So, if you ever need something from me – skip the fluff. Get to the point.
Sending you big virtual hugs,
Jasmine
Hey! It’s Jasmine Renee, Mindfulness Consultant. I love to help you to find more peace, clarity, and alignment through Mindfulness and Faith. I combine simple techniques with Biblical Principles that strengthen our connection with ourselves and with God.
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