by Jasmine Renee | Mar 12, 2025 | Uncategorized
Why True Impact Comes from Curiosity, Not Assumptions
One of the most interesting things I’ve noticed is how often people assume that if you’re not actively doing something, you must not know how to do it – or that you need to be taught. It’s a fascinating mindset because, when you really think about it, there are countless things you know how to do but simply don’t.
Maybe it’s a matter of capacity – you’re juggling other priorities. Maybe it’s just not aligned with what you’re focused on right now. Or maybe, quite simply, you don’t want to do it. And yet, people often project their assumptions onto others, believing that throwing information at someone is the solution they need. But that’s not what makes an effective coach, mentor, or helper.
The Danger of Assuming You Know What Someone Needs
The truth is, we don’t know what we don’t know. And more importantly, we don’t know what we don’t know about other people.
When we assume we have the full picture – when we think we know what someone lacks, what they need, or what they should do – we aren’t actually helping. We’re operating from our own perspective, not theirs. And that creates a disconnect.
Real effectiveness comes from holding space. From seeing the person in front of us as they are, rather than through the filter of our own beliefs or experiences. When we stop assuming and start being curious, we open up space for:
Empathy – Understanding someone’s situation without inserting our own narrative.
Compassion – Supporting them without making them feel inadequate or lacking.
Conversation – Asking, rather than telling. Listening, rather than assuming.
This shift in approach changes everything. Instead of pushing an agenda, we meet people where they are. Instead of imposing solutions, we help them clarify what they already know deep down.
People Already Have the Resources They Need
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), there are two presuppositions that I strongly resonate with:
The map is not the territory. This means that everyone sees the world through their own lens, shaped by their experiences, beliefs, and perspectives. No one has the full truth – just their version of it.
People have all the resources they need within them. Sometimes, people don’t need more information – they need the right questions to help them access what they already know.
This is why I don’t approach my work as a guru or an expert who has all the answers. I’m not here to tell people what to do. I’m here to remind you to Pause & Breathe, ask you the right questions, and help you tap into your own wisdom. My role is to help you clear the noise so you can hear your own guidance – the one that’s already there, waiting for you to listen.
Why People Come to Me
I believe this is why people love talking to me. They know I won’t assume I have all the answers for them. They know I’ll ask the right questions to help them get clarity. They know I don’t force solutions based on what I think is best but rather what makes sense for them.
Yes, I have a strong skill set, built over a decade of study, practice, and deep personal experience. But even beyond that, I have a lifelong connection with God and a commitment to following divine guidance in how I show up and serve. When I share insights, it’s never about forcing knowledge on someone – it’s about offering the missing pieces that truly resonate, in alignment with what they’re ready for.
Final Thoughts
If you truly care about helping others, whether as a coach, mentor, or simply as a human being, stop assuming. Stop filling in the blanks with your own story. Instead, start being curious. Ask questions. Listen.
Because when we do that, we create space for people to feel seen, heard, and understood – and that’s where real transformation happens.
by Jasmine Renee | Mar 12, 2025 | Uncategorized
Trusting God’s Vision: The Power of Holding Space for Others’ Dreams
It’s interesting how often we see people whether online or in real life deciding what others can or can’t do, what is or isn’t possible for them. I’ve noticed it a lot, and every time, it makes me pause. There’s something unsettling about watching someone dismiss another person’s vision or dream simply because it doesn’t fit into their own understanding of what’s realistic or achievable.
What fascinates me even more is how quickly some people – even those who claim to be helping others in the name of God – start shaping someone else’s path according to their own beliefs. Instead of holding space for what could be, they start molding the person’s dream into something safer, smaller, or more familiar.
But here’s the thing: We don’t know what’s possible for someone else. We don’t know how God is going to move in their life, and it’s not our place to decide the outcome of their vision.
My role, as I see it – is to hold space, to listen, and to support, without projecting my own limitations & beliefs onto someone else’s future.
What happens when we start telling others what they can or can’t do, especially when we position ourselves as being guided by God? Are we truly supporting them, or are we unknowingly steering them toward our version of what feels right?
It makes me wonder 🤔 how often do we confuse our personal fears or doubts with divine guidance? How often do we mistake our limited understanding for God’s voice?
There’s a fine line between offering wisdom and imposing our own beliefs. And when we cross that line, it doesn’t just affect the person we’re advising – it reflects something deeper within us. It’s a moment to pause and ask: Am I helping this person align with God’s will for their life, or am I subtly shaping them to fit my idea of what their life should be?
I don’t have all the answers. But what I do know is this – visionaries, out-of-the-box thinkers, and those with bold dreams don’t need us to decide what’s possible for them. They need a space where their vision is met with curiosity, not doubt.
Because at the end of the day, it’s not about what we think is possible. It’s about what God has planned – and that’s something none of us can fully see.
So maybe the real work isn’t in deciding what others can or can’t do. Maybe it’s in learning how to stand beside them, trusting that God’s vision for their life is far greater than anything we could ever imagine.
What would shift if we approached others’ dreams with that kind of openness?
by Jasmine Renee | Mar 12, 2025 | Uncategorized
We’ve already pulled apart the whole “eye for an eye” concept – how it was meant to create balance, not fuel payback. We also dug into how revenge culture has crept into everything – from global conflicts to cancel culture to our personal relationships.
But now, let’s talk about something that doesn’t get enough airtime: accountability without destruction.
Because here’s the thing – most people think those two are the same.
They think holding someone accountable means tearing them down. That if you don’t ruin someone for what they did, you’re letting them off the hook. But that’s not justice – that’s just revenge dressed up in self-righteousness.
So what does real accountability look like? And how does it apply to your life – especially if you’re someone who’s trying to grow, heal, and move with purpose?
Let’s break it down.
1. Accountability starts with clarity – not chaos.
When someone wrongs you – whether it’s a friend betraying your trust, a coworker throwing you under the bus, or a public figure making a harmful mistake – the first step isn’t to react.
It’s to get clear.
Clarity keeps you anchored. Without it, you’re just reacting – and reactions tend to escalate situations instead of resolving them.
2. It’s not about “winning” – it’s about restoring balance.
Here’s a hard truth: If your version of accountability is rooted in needing someone to suffer, that’s not justice – that’s ego.
I get it – when we’ve been hurt, there’s this urge to make the other person feel what we felt. It’s human. But that energy won’t give you peace – it just traps you in the same cycle you’re trying to escape.
Real accountability asks:
If it’s the latter, that’s a signal to check in with yourself.
Because your healing doesn’t come from watching someone else fall apart.
3. Consequences don’t have to be cruel.
Let’s be real – accountability doesn’t mean there are no consequences. It means those consequences actually serve a purpose.
If a friend repeatedly disrespects your boundaries, accountability might look like a tough conversation – and if they refuse to change, creating distance.
If a leader abuses their power, accountability might mean public exposure, clear repercussions, and a push for systemic change.
If you realize you’ve harmed someone, accountability means owning your actions, apologizing without excuses, and doing the work to shift your behavior.
But consequences should always be about correction – not annihilation.
It’s about creating space for growth, not fueling the fire of more pain.
What this means for you and your inner work
So how does all this connect to your own healing and growth?
Most people in my community – entrepreneurs, professionals, changemakers – you’re not out here waging wars or “canceling” people for sport.
But you are navigating relationships, business, and your own inner world – and the way you handle conflict matters.
Are you giving people the silent treatment as a form of punishment – or are you stepping back to gather yourself and set a clear boundary?
When someone hurts you, do you want an honest conversation – or are you more focused on making them feel small?
When you mess up, do you dodge accountability by making excuses – or do you face the discomfort and own it?
Because how you handle these moments is a reflection of your own heart.
And if you want to move with clarity, confidence, and integrity – both in your business and your personal life – you have to start practicing accountability without destruction.
The Shift Starts With You
Let’s not sugarcoat it – this work is hard.
It’s easier to lash out, shut down, or let your pride run the show. But those reactions don’t create real change – they just keep you stuck.
The shift happens when you start asking yourself:
Because the truth is – you can’t build anything meaningful while you’re focused on tearing others down.
The next post? We’ll go deeper into what it looks like to hold yourself accountable – because if you want to lead, heal, and grow, the work has to start with you.
by Jasmine Renee | Mar 12, 2025 | Uncategorized
Let’s get real about something that’s everywhere right now – revenge culture.
It’s loud. It’s messy. And it’s showing up in ways we don’t even realize – in politics, global conflicts, cancel culture, and even in our personal relationships. But at the root of it all is this ancient idea we’ve twisted over time: “an eye for an eye.”
In the last post, we broke down how this wasn’t about getting even – it was about keeping justice proportional. It was meant to stop the cycle of endless retaliation, not fuel it. But today, we’ve taken that concept and flipped it into a weapon.
Now, instead of seeking justice, people want satisfaction.
Let’s break it down.
Where We See Revenge Culture Today
1. In Global Conflicts:
A country is attacked, and instead of responding with strategy and wisdom, the focus becomes hitting back harder. The goal shifts from resolution to humiliation. It’s no longer about protecting people – it’s about proving a point. And the cycle repeats, leaving innocent people caught in the crossfire.
2. In Politics:
We’ve all seen it – leaders using their power to “get back” at opponents. It’s not about serving the people anymore – it’s about winning, even if it means burning everything down in the process. Policies are passed or blocked, not because they’re right or wrong, but because someone needs to “pay” for a past slight.
3. In Cancel Culture:
Someone messes up – whether it’s a celebrity, an influencer, or a regular person online – and instead of accountability, the crowd demands total destruction. It’s not enough for the person to apologize or learn. People want their career gone, their reputation ruined, their life shattered. It’s not about growth – it’s about punishment.
4. In Personal Relationships:
Ever caught yourself giving someone the silent treatment not to create space for reflection but to make them feel your anger? Or bringing up old wounds just to win an argument? That’s revenge culture on a personal level – where the goal isn’t to resolve the issue but to make the other person hurt like you do.
The Problem with Revenge Culture
Here’s the thing – revenge never ends.
When the goal is payback, there’s always going to be another hit. Another clapback. Another move in the game. The cycle doesn’t stop because pain doesn’t cancel out pain – it multiplies it.
And let’s not mistake revenge for justice.
Justice holds people accountable and aims to restore balance.
Revenge wants someone to suffer, even if it means the situation spirals further out of control.
One is rooted in truth and order. The other is fueled by ego and anger.
So What’s the Shift?
If we really want change – in our communities, our countries, and our personal lives – we have to step out of this cycle. And that doesn’t mean ignoring harm or pretending everything’s fine. It means choosing accountability over retaliation.
Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 5:38-39 wasn’t about being passive – “turn the other cheek” wasn’t a call to let people walk all over you. It was about breaking the cycle. It was a bold, radical move – to not let someone else’s anger pull you into their chaos.
So here’s what I’m inviting you to sit with today:
When someone wrongs you, is your first thought about making things right – or making them hurt?
Are you mistaking your desire for control as a pursuit of justice?
And most importantly – how can you hold someone accountable without adding more destruction to the situation?
Because the truth is this: You can’t heal a wound by making another cut.
Let’s keep the conversation going. In the next post, we’ll explore what it looks like to step into accountability – for ourselves and others – without falling into the trap of revenge.
by Jasmine Renee | Mar 12, 2025 | Uncategorized
Let’s talk about a phrase we’ve all heard – “an eye for an eye.” It’s tossed around in conversations about justice, revenge, and what people think it means to “get what’s coming to them.” But have we ever really stopped to ask: What did this actually mean back then – and how did we twist it into something it was never meant to be?
Most people don’t realize that “an eye for an eye” wasn’t about revenge – it was about restraint.
In the Old Testament – Exodus 21:23-25, Leviticus 24:19-20, and Deuteronomy 19:21 – this law was part of a system meant to create balance. If someone injured another person, the punishment had to match the crime – not exceed it. It was a way of saying: Justice must be fair and proportionate. You don’t take someone’s life because they broke your arm. You don’t destroy a family because someone hurt your pride.
The intention was to stop people from letting their anger push them into escalating violence. It wasn’t a free pass to go around handing out payback – it was a boundary. A way to ensure that justice didn’t slip into unchecked cruelty.
But here’s the problem: We don’t use it that way anymore.
Today, “an eye for an eye” has become a rallying cry for revenge.
We see it everywhere – from global conflicts to social media drama. Someone wrongs us, so we hit back harder. A country attacks, so the other retaliates. A person makes a mistake, and suddenly their entire life needs to be burned to the ground.
It’s not about balance anymore – it’s about domination.
We’ve moved from justice to vengeance – from restoring order to feeding the fire.
And let’s be honest: that cycle never ends well.
When we respond to harm with more harm, we don’t heal anything – we just multiply the pain. It’s a false sense of power. It might feel good for a moment, like we’ve “taught them a lesson,” but all we’ve done is invite more destruction into the room.
So what’s the shift?
The real question isn’t “How do I make them pay?” – it’s “How do we create accountability without causing more damage?”
Justice without wisdom is just more violence in disguise.
In the next post, we’ll dig into how this revenge culture is showing up right now – in politics, global conflicts, and even in the way we cancel people online. But for today, I want to leave you with this:
Are you confusing justice with payback?
When you see someone face consequences, do you want balance – or do you want to see them suffer?
And most importantly – are you willing to let go of the need to “win” if it means real healing can happen?
Because the truth is – you can’t build peace while you’re sharpening your sword.
Let’s talk about it.
by Jasmine Renee | Mar 12, 2025 | Uncategorized
Every day, I hear all sorts of perspectives from people. And while I respect that everyone has their own view, I’ve noticed something that keeps standing out: many people say they’re not trying to change others, but their actions suggest otherwise.
Instead of simply sharing their point of view, they try to manipulate, shame, or question others in a way that undermines their beliefs. The message often ends up being – I don’t need to change you, but I’m going to make you feel bad for not thinking like I do.
This behavior is subtle, yet it can be damaging. I’m not here to change your perspective. But more often than not, when we engage in these kinds of interactions, we aren’t just offering our viewpoint – we’re attempting to diminish others in the process.
This isn’t just a matter of differing opinions. It’s about the power dynamics in how we communicate, especially when it’s rooted in a belief system. When we try to shame others for thinking differently, it isn’t just wrong – it’s harmful, and if we’re doing it in the name of God, it’s even more concerning. It doesn’t align with the core principles of love, compassion, and understanding that many of us hold dear. In fact, it could be seen as something that comes from the enemy, not from a place of divine love.
We need to check our actions and words. If we say we believe in God and hold those values, we need to evaluate if our conduct reflects that belief. Is our intent to foster understanding and love, or are we just trying to prove ourselves right?
I’m not here to argue. I’m not here to convince anyone of anything. My goal is to engage with those who are open to receiving a broader perspective, who are ready to ask powerful questions and seek new insights. I’m here to co-create – to partner with organizations and individuals who resonate with the message of growth and fulfillment of God’s will. Together, we can build something beautiful.
If we’re committed to a higher purpose, our discussions shouldn’t be about one-upping or proving someone wrong. They should be about sharing, growing, and working together for the collective good.
